It seems there is more and more selfishness going on in marriages these days. It just breaks my heart to see men thing that they can do what they want all the time and espect their wives to just deal with it. There is so much education that needs to be done to help out marriages. I will have to admit that I was once a SELFISH JERK as well but I still made time for my wife and when the kids came around I took time with them as well. Now days it seems with some couples that they do most things separate from each other. That is the start of a major problem in a marriage. In time it will be the driving force in problems for them. What happened to love you forever and till death do us part. We are getting more and more where we take commitment so lightly. You see it all forms now where if we dont want something or to do something anymore we just quit or give it away. From a voice of experience, please listen to me and value your spouse and kids and try your best to be the best you can be. But most important put God first in your life, your marriage and your home. Without him things will surely fall. In priorities put God first, your spouse, your kids then you will be last. When this happens it is amazing what awesome things will happen in your life. But relationships are important, PLEASE TREAT THEM THAT WAY!!
By now the dvd has been released on the awesome movie about marriage, Fireproof. I highly recommend it to all couples and even those planning to marry. It has a great story line of what can happen in a marriage and what also happens apart from God. I purchased the download off of iTunes for my iPhone and it is just way to awesome. I have watched it 4 times this week. I don't think I will ever tire of it. It has so many things in it to watch out for in a marriage. But not to reveal to much about the movie I will let it go at that. Anyway see it if you have not, if you have rent or purchase it and watch it again. It has so much to offer to a marriage. It is truly one of the most impactful movies I have ever seen. Thank you Sherwood Church for producing and making this film. Awesome, awesome!! The book used in the movie, "The Love Dare Book" is a real book and available for purchase. Take care those you read this and try to do something special for your spouse this week and surprise them.
Marriage has become something we discard like we would a piece of clothing. We just don't want it anymore. It is to easy for couples to just say we don't want to be together anymore and just walk away. Some of this happens because we don't realy get to know each other before the marriage and some happens because we don't make committments that stick. We think we can just change our mind on a moments notice and walk away. When God sanctioned marriage he wanted it to be forever, we somehow have not understood what forever means. Our concept is to do as we please as long as it makes us happy. In this process innocent parties are hurt or scarred for life. This would be the children if you didn't figure it out yet. So make all attempts to work things out and /or seek counceling before getting to the separation or divorce. God will honor that about you. In order for things to work well in your relationship it is best to make sure your relationship with God is in order. This will totally make your perspective different than the world's view but as a believer we are just passing through on our journey towards Heaven.
Marriage is thought of in the English language as a noun. But I beg to differ, it needs to be a verb because it requires action. Without any action taking place in a marriage it will die. There needs to be action taken to keep it going. It requires much work to make it grow into what it needs to be in God's plan for marriage.
This past Sunday, my father-in-law passed away. He was a great man, he was very sick and it was hard to see him this way; but now we know he suffers no more. It is for this reason we are grateful and also that we who believe in Jesus and have accepted a personal relationship with him will see him again. Anyway it has been tough to see my wife as she has been going through this, as she is "Daddy's girl". There will be tough days ahead as we draw close to two big holiday seasons. One point that I will bring our concerning marriage is that I was able to allow her to be there during her father's illness. Several years ago I would have been demanding and the preverbial selfish jerk and probably made some comment about her needing to be with me and make her feel guilty about seeing her father. Thank the Lord I have grow some in that area. Sometimes I look back at how I have mistreated her and wonder how she has put up with me. I am definately a blessed man to have a wife like I have because she is so forgiving to me. She really is the one responsible for bringing me to my senses along with God of course but she has been patience with me and now I feel like I am on a road to better understanding her and putting her before me in all things. In God's perfect order you know it is GOD, SPOUSE, CHILDREN, FAMILY, OTHERS and then ourself. SOmehow we always seem to get that way out of kilter and flub things up. God has given us all potential and we choose to make it for good or for bad.
Keep Ruth and her family in your prayers and she starts the process of healing from the loss of her father. He truly was a good, caring man of God.
One of the first things we do after we get married is quit dating. We feel like it is not as important any more to try to win each other over. WRONG! It is essential that we continue to do this so we can learn more about our spouse, their feelings, likes and dislikes. Somethings change over time so we can get the updates as we go along. It also keeps us communicating which is a major problem with alot of marriages. Spending time goes with this as well and that is definitely good for a marriage. As we are married longer the trend is to do things separately so this helps keep this from starting. The husband feels he does not need to date as he has found his "catch" and he now closes up his feelings and questions and puts them in a box so to speak because he no longer needs them to sound out feeling and thoughts as he once did while hunting for Mrs. Right.
I started this blog as a means to help others with marriage issues. My wife and I teach small groups at our church about marriage issues. It is becoming more of a passion and I have been lead to use this means as well to better help those in the cyberworld with marriage issues or in preventative means to help couples before it becomes damaging to their marriage.